Carrot or stick?

My mum just called with the sole purpose of telling me about a childhood friend who is in grad school doing neuroscience and has a scholarship covering everything and then some, making her self sufficient, plus her mum bought her a house because living in Texas is apparently dirt cheap. My mum says "I was thinking, if you go to the US for grad school, I'll buy you a house too. It would be worth it." Then she starts talking about how difficult it's going to be for me to get real job despite my good grades (it's true, thanks for the reminder), and how it is very worrisome that my brother too is looking into "social sciences" (said with a hint of hysteria) for uni.

I don't even know.